5 Types of Terrible Bosses (and How to Handle Them) - The Muse

5 Types of Terrible Bosses (and How to Handle Them) - The Muse5 Types of Terrible Bosses (and How to Handle Them)Weve all been therbeie. At one time or abedrngnislagelageher throughout our careers, weve reported to somebody with a big title, fat paycheck, and reserved parking space only to wonder, How did they get the job? Incompetence and bad behavior often trump true leadership, and this unfortunately can affect our work lives. Here are five types of bad baboes- and how to deal with them (when quitting isnt an option).1. The Manager Who Says Yes and Then Pretends Like That Was Never the CaseYou were given the green light to move forward on an initiative. But once again, your boss has not only changed her mind, but it appears shes forgotten all about ever having approved the project. Now if this is a shift in direction based on some new critical information, thats totally legit. But if this behavior is dj vu more times than you can count, youve got a problem.How to DealThe way to ap proach this challenge is to identify whats causing the stop and go Who seems to always be whispering in her ear? Once you get a sense for who else may be involved in helping to change her mind, include those voices in meetings and get their sign-offs before you begin any project. And once you do- wait. Build into your project timeline a few days to let the dust settle and then circle back with your boss to confirm plans. You may not stop the behavior, but you will feel more in control and not spend so much time working on projects that may never see the light of day. 2. The Manager Who Doesnt Let You Work With Others (Ever)Your organization has a lot of departments and different perspectives. You think the project youre working on would benefit from cross-functional gruppework. Your boss doesnt. He might tell you that its better to involve others at the 11th hour. He might say that everyone is busy with other priorities. All of that may be true to some extent. But if his lack of sup port for collaboration is creating silos, something has to change.How to DealTake the conversations offline and out of the office. Make a point to visit other departments regularly. During lunch or after work, share whatever exciting projects you and your team are working on that may impact the entire company. Transparency and truth are keys to success and to being a real leader (whether you have the title or not). 3. The Manager Who Doesnt Just Disagree With Your Ideas, They Take it Out on YouYou pitch an idea or share your perspective with your boss and she disagrees. After that, youre not included in meetings. When you do get a seat at the table, youre ignored. Its a real possibility your boss is, indeed, retaliating against you. Its also possible that its just your imagination. Sadly, many times its the former scenario.How to DealAlthough this kind of behavior is illegal, bad bosses know how to subtly intimidate with the end goal of making you so uncomfortable that youll resign. And maybe you should. Its one way of dealing with the unfortunate situation. Another way is to schedule a meeting with your manager and share your view of what you think is happening and ask for her perspective. Back at your desk, type out a short email referencing the meeting, what was discussed, and letting her know that you understand the priorities she set forth (list them) and that youre really glad the air has been cleared. Of course, theres no guarantee shell stop, but it does give you a record of sorts and puts her on alert- so that if or when it happens again, you can confidently reach out to HR for guidance. 4. The Manager Who Likes to Play the Blame GameYou and your team launched a new campaign. Unfortunately, the results werent as good as youd hoped. You report your numbers to your boss and share lessons learned, but its not good enough. Your boss wants to know whos to blame. How to DealCome to the table with a reminder of what was agreed upon and what the hopes were fo r the project. Share a debrief of how prior projects succeeded. Then, transition to the current project, sharing the pros and cons and always emphasizing the positives (and not pointing fingers). By focusing on the team effort versus one specific mistake made by one specific person, you make it harder for your manager to single members out.5. The Manager Who Takes Full Credit for Work They Didnt DoYouve been working day and night to move mountains. The day comes when youve succeeded, and its time for everyone to know. But when the press release goes out, youre not mentioned. While it isnt unusual for a department head to pat herself on the back for overseeing your success, its a sign of a bad leader to dismiss those who really did the lions share of the job.How to DealIf public announcements dont recognize the right individuals or acknowledge a team effort, the way to approach your boss depends on them. If you think it was a very purposeful decision, this is one time you have to let it go. If people on your own team should have been applauded and werent, then do it yourself. Even if its just in an internal email to them or throwing an appreciation lunch, you have the opportunity to do what your boss doesnt Be a leader. But if you feel comfortable, send a quick email to your boss letting them know your team put a lot of work into the initiative and were a little disappointed not to see their names recognized publicly. Maybe shell apologize, maybe she wont- but your team will be stronger because you advocated for them.Anybody can be a boss- it doesnt immediately equate to being a leader. Keeping an eye out for these warning signs will help you understand the kind of person you report to- and whether its worth leaving them.